Do
you have any particularly titillating, tantalizing
or terrifying female orgasm stories to share
with us and our readers? Have you encountered
issues concerning the female orgasm or sex,
and wish to enlighten others who may be experiencing
the same kind of problems? frustration
My partner is reduced to tears , and becomes despondent with self loathing when she can't achieve orgasm. I'm trying to understand why it affects her so deeply, and of course, try to make her cum every time, if possible ..... sometimes it just doesn't work. And sometimes we resort to a vibrator to achieve the final desired result. She feels like that is cheating a bit. Ideally , she & I both like it the best when I'm inside her and we both cum together naturally.
posted by Candis Hale @ 11:45 AM
2 Comments:
There’s so much focus on climaxing and not enough attention on the enjoyment of just being together. The pressure she feels about reaching an orgasm actually makes it more of a burden than an enjoyment ... and there shouldn’t be any stress involved in lovemaking.
First of all, not every sexual encounter has to result in having an orgasm, to be enjoyed. Lovemaking can be thoroughly enjoyed whether you have an orgasm or not. If she is stressed about it, you can help to take the pressure off by making a special night together where it will be just about being intimate. How much can you tease each other? Play the teasing game. The tease is the most exhilarating feature to lovemaking for most women. Many men believe that constant stimulation to the clitoris is the only sure way to get her there, and so they concentrate on vigorously stimulating that area. For some that may work but for others, it can feel rushed and a little empty. A woman may feel disconnected because the clitoris becomes the point of focus, she feels your direct intention to get her to that point and place of orgasm.
Women need to connect emotionally ... so kiss her, hold her, talk to her. Make the emotional connection during foreplay. Make your movements slow and tender and she will respond with both her body and her heart taking the focus off the orgasm which in turn makes it come with ease and less stress.
Have you tried having a time together where time is of no concern and try having him please you as much as possible with the stated goal of not cumming? Then there is no pressure, no disappointment. Try to let it happen, not make it happen~
~just a thought~
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