Do
you have any particularly titillating, tantalizing
or terrifying female orgasm stories to share
with us and our readers? Have you encountered
issues concerning the female orgasm or sex,
and wish to enlighten others who may be experiencing
the same kind of problems? Female Orgasm while NOT having sex
I have had dozens of very powerful orgasms while sitting in a hair salon chair. I felt a little weird about it at first, thinking I must be a lesbian, to have a woman who does my hair give me one. It happens when they are combing my hair in an upward motion just before they cut. It doesn't happen every time, I'd say 7 out of 10. I actually look forward to getting my hair cut now. They last longer than intercourse orgasms (which I only achieve on top and with a lot of hard work). I've searched the internet to see if this is a rarity or more common then I realize to no avail. Anyone have any thoughts?
posted by Candis Hale @ 2:09 PM
17 Comments:
you lucky, lucky woman! i'd like some advice from you, as I never orgasm! (well, ONCE). i can get myself to the rush but not the 'pop'...my thoughts get in the way - the ones like 'will i get there this time??!!'... your advice would be welcome! as for your salon experiences - how do you hide the fact that you are having a powerful orgasm? what are you thinking of when it happens? i guess its a physiological/psychological combo that just works for you... like fetishes do in some people i guess - go girl!!!! lol
I just sit there and quietly enjoy it. Teri Garr's line in Tootsie is so true. 'I'm in charge of my own Orgasm'. A little history: I have been having sex since I was 17 but never had an orgasm till my second husband, we had been dating about 3 months when it happened I was 26. On top is the only way I have been able to have one, came close a few times with a lighter partner on top of me(enabled me to move better). When my third husband gains weight it is harder for me even on top, his belly gets in the way. He is shorter than my second husband so I need pillows propped behind his head to grab onto to move around on top of him. One time when the family was fast asleep I got a bunch of pilows to simulate a body between my legs and moved the same way I do on my husband, it wasn't very powerful, but I did have one, So for me anyway I do not have to have a penis inside of me to acheive an orgasm. It's all about contracting the kegal muscle inside of you. Being touched in such a way as to turn you on is important too, that's why I think the salon chair thing is happening, running fingers through my hair is a turn on for me, the upward motion is the same sensation created by riding my husband. I'm 44 now and both mine and my husbands weights and just being exhausted after a long day of work and dealing with 4 kids has lessened the frequency of my orgasms, and the fact that my husband no longer interests me. Considering finding someone that will turn me on again.
Its kittikatt - somehow everytime i try to post my password is not accepted!
you and me both (considering finding someone else...). my man and i have been together for 14 months and he too has a big tummy that gets in the way and if he's on top its hard to breath, let alone move! i'm so frustrated with all this. he is a good lover when it comes down to sex, but the foreplay... leaves a lot to be desired and i have told him what I want but some important things, he doesn't like to do...for example - i love to be kissed deeply...during foreplay - and he hates it coz some slag in his past told him he's no good at kissing. he also plays directly with my clit to much and i have to keep telling him its too sensitive and to roam more with his fingers and hands, but then i am too focussed on the big O that i never get there! i'd love to talk more in detail about what happens for me when get close - how I get the 'rush' (only when alone apart from a couple of times with him) but then nothing more.. fancy being my O coach?! lol
I am a foreplay nut, wow I wish you ladies lived in MN. Sounds like you could use a dedicated orgasm/foreplay/afterplay partner!
read my 'males perspective' post.
tony
MMMmmm.. I wish I could help!
You're thoughts, kittikat, charmed???
tony
get on a plane to New York Tony, I'd try any thing at this point to have an orgasm not be as strenuous as an olympic event. I want to make love not run a marathon!
Charmed
to charmed,
orgasms should be allowed to happen, not made to happen. its not a marathon, its a dedicated, delicate tongue, touch, and taste fest; served 100% unselfishly and with patience, attention to detail, and a lot of heat. It is am much mental as physical. It is about meeting needs, and removing distractions and obstacles. It is about giving more than you take.
tony
To Charmed:
Would you email me if I put my address here???
tony
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Anonymous Anonymous said...
First of all, to kittikat and charmed, I think you are both quite disrespectful. You both talk about your significant others being overweight and how they just don't turn you on anymore, but have you ever thought that perhaps you letting yourselves go has had the same effect on them?!? A little bit of the pot calling the kettle black here... You've been married three times now, and are trying to get on someone else, charmed. Maybe the problem is YOU!!
As for both of you, the key to a happy relationship and a hot sex life is not about finding some random Joe Schmoe at the bar to take home for a couple nights until you decided you were an *** and then go back to your significant other. If you want to have happy, healthy relationships, they have to start with you! TALK to your husband about your concerns! TALK to your boyfriend! To be quite honest, when I read your blog and comments, I thought nothing better of you than common ***. And, Tony is a lying *** just waiting to prey on anyone who is vulnerable enough!!
hi 'anonymous-too-gutless-to-leave-even-a-non-de-plume'
its kittikatt here... I love my man vry much and the fact is that his tummy does get in the way and it can be hard to breath with his weight on me - that IS frustrating but i love even his tummy! I DO talk to him about my concerns, (read my blog c-a-r-e-f-u-l-l-y)... and he turns me on very much. I think my messages here show clearly that I consider my inability to orgasm is MY 'fault', not his. yes I did make a stupid comment about considering finding someone new, but I did not mean a casual F***. That comment was during the kind of rough patch we all go through - and in reality i do not ever want to be with anyone else. And by the way... No-one said anything about me 'letting myself go', so stop assuming. And as for 'tony' - noticed my lack of response to him? I think you owe me an apology. I'm on here to get some practical advice about how to achieve what most of you achieve reletively easily - an orgasm. Next time you have one, spare a thought for those who never do, but who are left hanging - and feeling abnormal because of it, despite all the love and care provided, and all the years of trying. Kittikatt
been away awhile. Let me say this~ I love giving my wife orgasms. I am careful.. considerate, and dedicated to being as perfect as i can...she seldom returns the favor. I cannot imagine actually cheating in her, nor would I fly to New York. but I have to say, the positive comments boost my morale considerable. Some flattery both ways, some positive reinforcement that someone might find your efforts attractive, the very idea that my efforts would be appreciate are encouraging. I never meant to offend anyone, I'm sorry if I did. I don't don't see much harm in a little encouragement online.
I will be perfectly clear... I AM SORRY IF I OFFENDED ANYONE.
tony
BTW: I am not a lying ***as you indicated. I struggle in an unfulfilling relationship of almost 30 years. I have not cheated nor do I intend to, but seeking some encouragement, and offering the same is okay by me.
I have only engaged in one online friendship- we both share some failures, dreams and fantasies. it benefited both of our relationships at home. Despite a little flirting, neither ever tried to trace our real names, etc. Prey is a very strong and harsh word. I'm sorry you feel that way. Candis can attest to a very involved letter I posted a long time ago called "a males perspective" and while I might have gotten a bit flirty recently, I have not and would not and will not PREY on anyone, your words are damaging and hurtful. If flirty words makes someone feel attractive, good for them!
Kittkat and Charmed- I apologize to you both.
i will not post here again~
Tony
Hi Tony,
You have nothing to apologise for! I was saying that I think 'anonymous anonymous' owed Charmed and I an apology, not you. I appreciate your posts so please don't go... harmless flirting is great! I wasn't offended at all by your posts.
My man has been really attentive for the last month or so and still I'm close but no cigar.. its just that I don't persist past that 'too sensitive coz i'm almost there' stage - and I keep this mantra in my head like 'am I gunna cum this time? Stop thinking or you won't!' which puts too much mental pressure on me - but we have been having fun practicing and going further each time... anyway - just keep up the contact - Kittikatt
thanks- my apology was to appease my attacker, not you or charmed, you've both been nice and a fun.
thanks again.
t.
Oh my God - I was so happy to read your comment. This has recently started happening to me every time they shampoo/message my scalp. I love it but also thought I must be turning into a lesbian (highly doubtful since I'm head over heels about my husband even after 25 years). But still, I can't orgasm in partner sex, only by myself, and now apparently in the chair.
Thanks again - at least I'm not alone.
Guys come on,
We need each other's help. My husband doesn't have a belly and there are times when I just can't have an orgasm with him. Lately, I started the "no underwear thing" and so far it's been doing wonders for me. When I'm getting dressed in the morning for work I shower with the door open, stand in front of him to put lotion on my body, then slip my clothes on without any underwear and during the day at the office just knowing that I'm so free beneath my clothes with all these men in the office helps me to have orgasms during the day and I just can't wait to get home and drive the man crazy. Try it. Even if you have to go shopping in a cute dress with no underwear and knowing that he knows is such a great turn on you have orgasms while you're shopping or whatever it is you're doing. At nights have a shower and just sit in front of your husband and show him what you how you would like to be touched by doing it yourself and have an orgasm for him to see without having him touch you. Hey salon chairs are great and you're not a lesbian. Actually I'm not gay but my imagination sometimes get the better of me. I like looking at legs, ass, boobs and penis. Just looking at other people with great physique and imagining what they might look like naked sometimes give me a turn on and I have an orgasm. So we're all a bit kinky but it doesn't make us weirdos. Try somthing daring>>>> Caribbean Girl
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