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My wife masturbating alone bothers me

2010-01-18T10:35:00.000-08:00

We are both in our early 20's, she has never had an orgasm. I have encouraged her to touch herself and show me what she wants and she has. The problem is she wants to do it alone sometimes and for some reason this really bothers me I have no idea why!

O-less-in-Colorado

2009-12-08T07:51:00.000-08:00

Hello,

Ok I am a 42 year old guy in Colorado. I am just out of a 20 year relationship, sexually that relationship was "normal". WE both had orgasms when we wanted to.

Ok the relationship ended and what do you know. there are other females that were interested...Lucky me!

She is 23... I know I told her that I felt a little weird about our age but she is ok with it so......

Ok here is my issue, she has never had and orgasm.......I have never been with a girl that did not cum. She does not like oral sex.....she said it is a waste of time. I have spent up to an hour or maybe longer to please my ex wife. She had been prescribed wellbutrin and that was marathon sex.....it took forever for her to orgasm.....But she would....

I have ready all this stuff on the web about this and they all say it mental...Is it? I know the spots....G spot, Clit I could make my ex wife orgasm in tee minus 5 minus max......

So is the dream right? a younger girlfriend.....I am not used to a no orgasm sex life? I mean I can do my thing, but I am not a selfish jerk I want her to orgasm if we have sex

I have not had sex with this girl yet. I want to. What do you think will help. Slow patient play?

I am open to any and all recommendations.

O-less-in-Colorado

Ways Women Orgasm

2009-12-08T06:48:00.000-08:00

Dear Candis,

It may help women, who are comparing sex with masturbation, to appreciate that PHYSICAL stimulation (of the genitals) only leads to orgasm once a person has achieved PSYCHOLOGICAL arousal.

During masturbation, men use EROTIC IMAGES (sexual attributes of a partner) but women use EROTIC SCENARIOS (fantasies with a complex psychological context).

This explains why women do not buy pornography as men do. A partner’s nakedness and genitals do not cause female sexual arousal.

So women are likely to find orgasm during sex more elusive than men tend to, unless they can find some way of incorporating their fantasies into their sexual relationship.

Kind regards,

Jane Thomas

Founder: Ways Women Orgasm

How to Fake an Orgasm

2009-11-26T07:15:00.000-08:00

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Top 10 Reasons Women Fake Orgasms

2009-11-26T06:11:00.000-08:00

Top 10 Reasons Women Fake Orgasms

Women fake orgasms? I hate to break it to you but yes, women do indeed fake orgasms, and have been doing so for quite some time now! But the more important question is: why do they fake orgasms? Read up on it on my new article: http://www.femaleorgasmsecrets.com/article8-top-10-reasons-women-fake-orgasms.html

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2009-11-11T10:47:00.000-08:00

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2009-11-09T05:38:00.000-08:00

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Unsatisfied husband

2009-09-28T07:41:00.000-07:00

My husband wanted me to learn or to research how to masturbate. I am a filipina and it is against my moral and beliefs that I do that kind of thing. I dont get orgasm when he play with me on my private part...it hurts and his hands feels like a sand paper (he is a mechanic and had a calous hand and fingers) when he touch me, so when I complain that it hurts he got offended. He keeps on complaining and said his sexual life sucks. He is also obsessed with using his fingers to my V_ _ _ _ _ but he doesnt cut his fingernails.I do love him but I dont know what to do and I dont like his ideas because I know I would not like or feel any sensation on it. I need some advice. Thanks

Human Pheromones

2009-09-18T07:22:00.000-07:00

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Top 10 Women's Fantasies

2009-08-18T07:37:00.000-07:00

When it comes to sexual fantasies, many of them are geared towards men. However, women are sexual beings too, and they have plenty of scenarios and situations that turn them on. Some may think the top 10 women’s fantasies include roses and chocolate, but take note that things are not always as they appear.

See my article Top 10 Women's Fantasies. Feel free to add your own sexual fantasies.

Not sure about orgasms

2009-05-27T10:04:00.000-07:00

I was once told that if I didn't know what an orgasm felt like, I had never had one. I've had a few encounters where it wasn't' about me it was about them.... well atleast after the "first time" feeling wore off.

The lover I am with now is much older than me and seems to really want me to orgasm, but I'm not sure I've had one because the way they are described to on this site, it sounds like I've never had one but I love penetration, I love the way my lover feels very much. He makes me feel safe and loved so I feel relaxed around him and like we fit completely but I feel bad because I haven't really had an orgasm 'cause I'm not sure that what I felt is one anyway.... he asks me to cum, but I've never had an extra burst of fluid, I just get really excited for a few moments, I scream typically and hold onto him really tight and feel very wet all over again but that's about it.

He loves going down on me, but sometimes I am self conscious although he says I taste good, maybe I'm not relaxed enough I know what I like in this context but don't think I can ask him. I think I feel like I'm asking too much.

I love pleasing him, so I usually go down on him randomly without him asking me and I love the way he reacts to me because I'd rather please him than me since I feel like it would take forever for me.

Also, is there a way to make doggie style feel more intimate? I like to be able to feel that my lover is there, otherwise I feel like a literal dog and not as special (I was hurt hat way I guess that's why... i don't really know) any ideas, 'cause that's what my lover likes and I like pleasing him really...

man from London

2009-01-05T12:04:00.000-08:00

Hi,

I am a man from London, England, and have just discovered your site; like it and I will be showing it to my partner as there is a thing or two SHE could learn from it, as it is not only us poor dumb guys who apparently know nothing!

Having read what you have to say, it all makes perfect sense to me and I am in no doubt whatsoever that, with very few clinical exceptions, ALL women are capable of orgasms and ALL women are capable of multiple orgasms.

How do I know this? Well, as you can imagine, it is quite difficult to say what I am about to say without sounding like I am bragging, but I’ll give it my best shot. Firstly from years of experience and secondly because I am absolutely sure that of all the women I have made love to over 30 years, not one of them has faked orgasm and all of them have had orgasms; some have orgasmed for the first time and some who have experienced multiple orgasms for the first time. There will of course be those of you who don’t believe this, so save your breath.

How has this been achieved you ask? Simple, make love to your partner, don’t just fuck her, although that is OK too if that is what she wants too. Put her at the centre of your world and simply try your best to please her by doing what she wants and likes, as well as what you think she wants. As your site points out, us guys, sadly, get just one shot at this before we are spent, so take your time and nourish your love-making with kissing, foreplay, caresses, hot baths, candles, silk sheets, toys, porn – whatever floats your respective boats, but never ever forget your trump card guys; use your tongue and lips and simply show your woman you really care by giving her oral sex. I have never yet met a woman who doesn’t love it (those that don’t clearly have issues which they need to address) and who doesn’t achieve an orgasm. Bingo, pass go, collect £200, bulls-eye, you have just won the lottery and you are God in her eyes and then can do whatever you want after that; you can even come in 5 seconds if you wish, because there will be no complaints and if you penetrate just after, or even as she is coming, then chances are high she may well orgasm again when you do. It doesn’t get much better than that. One woman I met on a flight back from Barbados asked me (it was a bizarre flight which I might tell you about some time) “Is the hole the goal for you guys”? Honestly! I said of course not, but I know that for many men that is the goal. Wrong, go to jail you are bankrupt.

If all you think about is yourself, then not much can be achieved. But this goes for you women too, when it’s your turn don’t be mean, show him you care and give him oral sex too and whatever else he likes. It takes two to tango and it is this mutuality that is the key: you can’t make love alone, you can only masturbate, so bear in mind – and again this goes for all you lovely women too – there are two of you. Also ladies, do unto others as you would have done unto yourself, it is not just us guys that need to learn a few things here; you cannot expect him to go down on you if you are not prepared to reciprocate. When I make love, my sole ambition is for her to have pleasure and hopefully achieve orgasm. It has never failed me yet and, whilst it might just be that I have been incredibly lucky, which I am sure is also true, I think it is quite simply that I care.

This approach has proved successful and highly rewarding because, as I said at the outset, all the women I have bedded have had orgasms, you can’t fake these despite myths propagated by When Sally met Harry; and some of those either for the first time or who have achieved multiple orgasms for the first time. And that, my friends makes me feel great! Fantastic in fact, as well as just a little bit smug. Because knowing that these women loved me and will remember me, not for banging away at them, but because they were loved and pleasured and had experiences they had perhaps not had with previous partners is a huge turn on; at least for me. It wasn’t about the size of my penis, although no complaints there, and let’s face it, at the end of the day, orgasms are not everything, but they are a damn fine miracle of life and we should promote it and enjoy it as often as possible. It is even free and there ain’t much left in this world that is.

Another delightful trick guys is to stimulate her G-spot whilst giving her oral sex. As this site explains, it is only 2 inches or so inside the vagina, which is easily reached by your finger - or a toy. When she is fully aroused by oral sex, her G-spot will be primed, and when you sense orgasm is approaching, gently insert your finger(s) slowly as you continue giving her oral sex and you will feel a rather curious ‘grainy’ part; if you apply rhythmic pressure to this then when she comes, trust me hold on to your codpiece guys, because she will rip your head off! Honest to God it makes me feel bloody marvelous when this happens and I am so horny that, when she comes down from Planet Orgasm, I am primed and ready to deglaze her pans. I recall I did this with a wonderful woman from Chicago and she passed out; literally. We were staying in a rather fancy country hotel in Oxfordshire and she literally went out cold and I was all primed and ready to go and didn’t know what had happened or what to do! Did I call reception, throw cold water over her (and me!) pack my bags and leave quickly in case she had in fact died? A few minutes later she came round and gave me a smoldering look I shall never forget, although I think I was quite white and shaken by then. I asked her if she was OK and she gave me the kind of look that sort of said, “are you kidding - I am in heaven what’s the matter with you”? So she orally pleasured me, spread her legs and we finished off the matter in hand. Great hotel, great woman, great orgasm and a great memory. The icing on the cake to this story is that I followed her to Chicago some time later and stayed with some of her female friends; she was married you see. They had clearly heard all about this and made no bones in making it clear to me they wanted to have sex with me too. Rather difficult situation, but am a little embarrassed to say that I did have sex with two of her friends; I think you know the conclusion to both these encounters. It works.

Anyways guys (and girls) hope this helped and give it a try and let me know, and there are many more stories where this came from, including some about my current partner who is 30 years younger than me and quite content; the trouble is she is so impatient, she wants to come far too quickly. I try to lengthen foreplay but she just wants to get right to the end of the film as quickly as possible. I am built for comfort not for speed….

Have fun

Ps this is a genuine letter but if it makes you feel better to think it is fantasy, then please be my guest.

ORAL SEX

2008-10-28T09:17:00.000-07:00

I am Es, i just want to share my experience with my husband. He keeps asking me to suck his penis and i bluntly refused as i feel that it is not healthy. But i noticed that he is no longer happy with me on bed.

I think i will like you to teach more about oral sex. How healthy is it? And should we allow them to suck our vagina as well?

Birth Control Methods

2008-08-28T06:09:00.000-07:00

Hi there,
Has anyone been keeping up with my whole birth control section? I've been adding pages in there like crazy! Check
it out. Let me know what you think.

The best lovemaking positions for your pleasure!

2008-03-26T07:24:00.000-07:00

Hello,
I have a new article called "Absolutely the best lovemaking positions for your pleasure!"

It discusses, as the tittle implies, the absolute best lovemaking positions for your pleasure.

Go ahead and read it and leave some comments. There is no need to use your name or email address.
Candis

Let's Keep this Site Clean

2008-02-04T06:12:00.000-08:00

Hi all,
Lately some of the posts have begun to get heated (and not in a sexual way). I ask that anyone posting comments please keep them clean and appropriate. Everyone has a right to free speech, but this blog is not intended to bash or degrade anyone. If you have anything to say, please say it with respect to the party you are addressing. Also this site gets a lot of traffic, so it's not a good idea to put your email address on any comments, unless you want a million people sending you emails.
Candis

Orgasm

2007-12-14T09:02:00.000-08:00

Hi,

My wife and I are both military, so when we see each other, it is an enormous gift. Starting Monday, the 17th, I will get to be with her for 10 days. I want to know any great ways I can please her.

When we have sex, I am one of those guys, that though I cum early, I can usually go on for a long time. So usually, 5 minutes or so into intercourse, I cum. But I stay inside her, and I work, even if it takes me 30 minutes for her to have an orgasm. Of all the times that we have had sex, she told me that only once has she ever "faked" and orgasm, and that is because she was sore and did not want to tell me. Now, She is very new to sex, we have been married 3 months tomorrow, and have been together for about 7 all together. Her Orgasms have, well, been not that strong, now, new feelings to her, yes, but I want her to remember this time together we are going to have.

How can I get her to have an Orgasm to remember and to be looking forward to the next time we see each other in about 2-3 months? I want her to shake whenever she remembers it, and we talk about it over the phone....I want her to lust after it. How can I get her to that point. I am all for pleasing her, and I love to please her, but I want this to be an incredible 10 days for her. Help ASAP would be appreciated. Thanks.

MacGyver

PROBLEMS

2007-12-11T07:50:00.000-08:00

(This post has been slightly edited.)

THIS IS SARAH.

I AM 62 YEARS OLD AND LIKE TO SEX WITH MY HUSBAND ALWAYS

BUT WE DO SEX 20 MINUTES HE ENJOYED IT ALWAYS.
I JUST CAN’T HAVE ORGASM AND ASKED MY HUSBAND SEX MORE THAN 20 MINUTES LONGER
HE SAID THAT TIRED AFTER 20 MINUTES
IS THIS IMPACT TO MY AGE WHAT? JUST CAN’T HAVE ORGASM

ANY FOOD, HERB HELP ME AND NEED ADVISE?

I DO PLAY GOLF 4 TIMES A WEEK BUT I AM NOT TIRED ALL AFTER PLAYED GOLF.

SINCERELY,
SARAH B.

Female Orgasm while NOT having sex

2007-11-21T14:09:00.000-08:00

I have had dozens of very powerful orgasms while sitting in a hair salon chair. I felt a little weird about it at first, thinking I must be a lesbian, to have a woman who does my hair give me one. It happens when they are combing my hair in an upward motion just before they cut. It doesn't happen every time, I'd say 7 out of 10. I actually look forward to getting my hair cut now. They last longer than intercourse orgasms (which I only achieve on top and with a lot of hard work). I've searched the internet to see if this is a rarity or more common then I realize to no avail. Anyone have any thoughts?

Online Dating Services: Technology takes on romance

2007-11-06T09:07:00.000-08:00

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frustration

2007-10-18T11:45:00.000-07:00

My partner is reduced to tears , and becomes despondent with self loathing when she can't achieve orgasm. I'm trying to understand why it affects her so deeply, and of course, try to make her cum every time, if possible ..... sometimes it just doesn't work. And sometimes we resort to a vibrator to achieve the final desired result. She feels like that is cheating a bit. Ideally , she & I both like it the best when I'm inside her and we both cum together naturally.

8 years, a great sex life, and no orgasm

2007-10-05T12:31:00.000-07:00

Excerpt from a comment left on "Males perspective" post:

me and my husband have been together 8 years and we have a great sex life.....But i am 31 years old and do not think i have ever cumed....And my husband tries everything and i get to a point to were i fell tingly and i give up...my husband would give anything for me to get off...but i dont know how....and not sure what it feels like.....what can i do?????
Posted by Anonymous, October 4, 2007 1:41 PM

Males perspective

2007-09-28T13:40:00.000-07:00

Dear Candis:

I am a 50 year old male-who has learned the secret to providing a great orgasm almost everytime- unfortuantely she comes so early that I don't, but that's another story.

"Honey, I'm home, let's screw," would get me tossed out on my ear. Instead, I start making love 24 hours before we climb into bed- by cleaning the house, preparing meals- arranging my kid's stuff including home work so my wife is well rested and relaxed and not stressed when we get into bed. I am somplimentary and considerate. Also, I am a massage master- taking great pride in my work, one massage lasted 4 hours and often my masages lead to orgasm. Lastly, I am an oral sex master, too. I keep my eyes and ears open as I give her oral sex....I listen for every little sound (was it good or not so good) and repeat the good. I watch her stomach rise and fall and watch for stomach muscles tensioning-...why?... did I do something right or wrong...again I make note of the good and do not repeat the not so good. I feel and interrupt every quiver, shudder, I listen for every breath, moan, and groan. I work to be best for her- there is so much more to oral sex than lapping away at her like a dog in a water bowl!

Frankly, I'm only okay looking at best- but I work so hard sexually. Further, I always shower first, shave very cleanly, brush my teath, pre-warm or pre-cool the room (depending on season) light candles including one scented, I work hard and get results. I trim and sand my nails, I sand my hands- sorry, no callouses during my magic massages. I trim (not shave) but trim my pubic and chest hair- I use just a hint of a nice cologne. I simply try to present what I have as best as possible and preform like a artist. To be honest, I am incredible- but only because of the work I put into pleasing her. She orgasms- everytime! In fact she even gets mad because I make her cum before we even get to intercourse. I am also a master at intercourse. I'm average in size- maybe even a bit smaller, but when you put your soul into your preformance ...it shows. I'll be in the missionary position, but up on my hands and toes with nothing touching except my penis. I use little mini strokes that only move the head in and out, maybe 1 1/2" strokes- NO OTHER CONTACT, after a couple minutes of that I go back to full plunges...the results- she cums first...I end up cumming by hand after (my own hands) while she kisses me. I haven't figured out the male O, but I've got the female one nailed- respect, service, dedication, comfort, attention to detail, little gifts occassionally, hard but pleasuarable work and lots of tender loving care.

Simply, she cums everytime because I am so great- but be clear- I am not bragging, nor am I great because I'm handsome, tall, or hung. I'm great because I react to her wants, hone my skills, practice, practice, and practice, and selflessly work my butt off to please her! I'm great because I put her needs first. Paying attention and consistantly delivering the efforts that brings her to orgasm virtually everytime makes me great!

This may be a female forum, but any comments for helping me cum???? I've about given up! :(

Pole Dancing for a Spicier Sex Life

2007-08-14T09:42:00.000-07:00

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