Before starting the full body massage or getting into an orgasm-friendly
position, you have to stop and think about your relationship.
Great sex is the product of a loving and trusting relationship.
You must have one before you can have the other.
Most women will not free their inhibitions for a night of wild passion
if they do not feel safe and secure within their relationships. In other
words, if your partner is having trouble achieving orgasm, then perhaps
it is the relationship that is the problem – not the positioning.
Here are some of the essential elements for cultivating any healthy
- It may
sound cliché but communication is the key to any loving,
long-lasting relationship. Communication is not only about talking,
but about listening as well.
Take turns recapping the events of your day, share an inside joke,
let your partner know what’s on your mind…
These are all techniques to use in keeping the lines of communication
open. Sharing intimate secrets and personal thoughts creates a level
of closeness that is carried through into the bedroom.
The couple will be more willing to experiment, and to take the time
- Communication leads to deeper trust. Without this important
element, the relationship is nonexistent.
Trust is achieved over time. Individuals must prove themselves
to be trustworthy, and if that trust is ever lost it is difficult to
If your partner has complete faith in you and your relationship, she
will be more open to freeing her inhibitions in the bedroom. Distrust,
on the other hand, will cause a woman to hold herself back in the bedroom.
- Lovers should also be friends. Cultivating a friendship above
all else is truly a necessary part of any relationship.
Solid friendships include levels of honesty, laughter, respect, compromise,
Your mutual love and respect for one another will naturally encourage
you to strive towards excellence in bed. You’ll want to help your
girlfriend or wife have a positive sexual experience. Helping her achieve
orgasm will seem like a pleasure instead of a chore.
Therefore, besides being romantic and finding the right position, the
secret to female orgasm lies within the relationship itself. You and your
partner must communicate, have trust, and above all be